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libragrrrl0923 | I need some advice regarding this cappy man that I am hopelessly falling for... It all started 5 months ago - we met online and then met for drinks. He kissed me at the end of the date and I knew then (just from that kiss) that this guy would be special. Five months later, and this libra girl is struggling to know how this cappy feels about her. He isn't very verbal about his emotions - as in he doesn't express them at all. I am pretty verbal but reserved in the same because I don’t feel safe enough to let go completely. He knows I like him and that I want things to progress. We are just dating right now, no relationship yet (he's not ready). The fact that he doesn't want a relationship yet is the reason why I'm so confused. Most times, we will see each other 5 - 6 times a week, he gets jealous if I happen to hang out with one of my guy friends and there are times when he looks at me with such sincerity it makes my heart skip a beat. All those things would tell me he's in to me - but then he will take three giant leaps back and I won't see him for days at a time, he'll act distant and cold and he will barely make eye contact with me. So I don't get it. Is this the cappy way??? On/off? Hot/cold? Why can't it just be simple? Is he testing me to see what I'll endure? I've heard mixed things about the libra/cap combo and most are not good. However, we have such a great connection. We have a blast together and our sexual chemistry is off the charts. I like this guy and I don't want scare him off or mess things up. So any advice would be helpful! For reference - if it helps - Him - Sun Capricorn Moon Capricorn Mercury Sagittarius Venus Scorpio Mars Capricorn Jupiter Leo Saturn Virgo Uranus Scorpio Neptune Sagittarius Pluto Libra True Node Virgo Ascendant Gemini Me - Sun Libra Moon Pisces Mercury Libra Venus Leo Mars Scorpio Jupiter Virgo Saturn Libra Uranus Scorpio Neptune Sagittarius Pluto Libra True Node Leo Ascendant Capricorn |
libragrrrl0923 | P.S. I am new to the forum. So please excuse me if I posted this in the wrong spot. |
Randall | Welcome! Try posting it in Personal Readings. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
Randall | This is a good spot, so you chose well, but if stating chart details, Personal Readings will work better for you. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
libragrrrl0923 | Thank you! I will do that now. |
libragrrrl0923 | On second thought - I don't think I am necessarily looking for a reading, just need to know how to understand the capricorn man. I only posted chart details to help. So can you help me Randall? I hear you're a fellow capricorn. |
RegardesPlatero | Frankly, if he's acting cold and distant, and jealous on top of that, he's playing games with you. No man has the right to tell you who to be friends with, ever. You shouldn't have to drop your friends just to please him. I doubt he would drop all of his female friends. He needs to get over his jealousy and insecurities. That's his job, not yours. Personally, when someone tries to boss me around or control me, I'm more likely to do what they don't want me to do just out of spite. And if he can't communicate, then that's not good either. I have this issue with friends and acquaintances (I do not date), and it drives me up the wall. Eventually, I always leave. Respect, honest, healthy, appropriate communication is essential. It's not optional for a good, happy, healthy relationship, be it familial, friendship, or otherwise. |
Randall | Are you really just friends with the other guy? Was there ever anything more? ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
libragrrrl0923 | Just friends with the other guy. Never anything more from my perspective. Over the weekend I found out from Mr. Cap that he had lost two girlfriends due to their guy friends coming in the picture and sweeping them off their feet. He confessed that he tries to be the good guy and not get jealous about his girlfriend having guy friends, but then something like that happens. So he's a little skeptical. This guy friend was a fairly new friend of mine and it did turn out he wanted more with me (found out about this after the fact). So I have stopped talking to him. Like I said, I really like Mr. Cap and I don't want to complicate what I have with him by getting involved with someone else. |
Randall | Guys generally don't want to be just friends. They tend to want more. Just saying. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
libragrrrl0923 | Ha... that's exactly what Mr. Cap said. He's away on business this week and while he's away I've been giving him the space he usually needs. This has resulted in more communication on his part. I see this as a good thing. I back off and he pushes forward. So I guess that's the key. Patience... not my strongest quality! Question for you Randall, have you dated a Libra before? If so, what was your experience? |
mockingbird | ^ re: Guys as friends: I've noticed that that can generally be said for earth and fire guys, often for water, but not necessarily air guys. Quite a few of them are content with friendship. |
Randall | I have. No chemistry. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
Randall | Compatibility is more than just Sun Signs, though. ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
mockingbird | True that. (Said the Pisces married to a Gemini.) ------------------ If I've included this sig, it's because I'm posting from a mobile device. Please excuse all outrageous typos and confusing auto-corrects. |
RegardesPlatero | quote: Originally posted by Randall: Guys generally don't want to be just friends. They tend to want more. Just saying.
honestly, that depresses me I wish that men would learn to see women as the amazing people we are instead of just seeing us in terms of what they can get. (I'm not saying that to you specifically, but in general). Makes me honestly see guys differently--and not for the better.
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libragrrrl0923 | Even if the stars are against us...I'm seeing things progressing really well. Ever since my birthday I have seen a HUGE change in Mr. Cap. It was like someone finally turned the light on for him! Suddenly he is more attentive, affectionate, and soooo loving! He wants to see me more and just last night he asked me to stay when I was about to leave and go home. I have been going through a lot of stuff with my home and he has been very supportive and helpful. I can't help but feel like a lucky girl right now. |
charmainec | Glad for you. ------------------ quote: Remember, love can conquer the influences of the planets....It can even eliminate karma.
Linda Goodman |
Randall | ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark |
fairy22 | Libra and Capricorn Absolutely |
libragrrrl0923 | quote: Originally posted by fairy22: Libra and Capricorn Absolutely
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